{"id":1489,"date":"2026-05-25T01:02:00","date_gmt":"2026-05-25T01:02:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gazetedokuz.com\/?post_type=columist&#038;p=1489"},"modified":"2026-06-24T03:01:16","modified_gmt":"2026-06-24T00:01:16","slug":"cocuklarimizi-basariya-mi-dayanikliliga-mi-yetistiriyoruz","status":"publish","type":"columist","link":"https:\/\/gazetedokuz.com\/?columist=cocuklarimizi-basariya-mi-dayanikliliga-mi-yetistiriyoruz","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ba\u015far\u0131ya m\u0131, dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131\u011fa m\u0131 yeti\u015ftiriyoruz?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cBug\u00fcn \u00e7ocuklar kaybetmeyi de\u011fil, beklemeyi bile \u00f6\u011frenemeden b\u00fcy\u00fcyor.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bug\u00fcn sizlerin kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na, y\u0131llard\u0131r i\u00e7inde oldu\u011fum tenis kortlar\u0131ndan gelen bir g\u00f6zlemle \u00e7\u0131kmak istiyorum. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bazen bir tenis kortu, yaln\u0131zca spor yap\u0131lan bir alan de\u011fil; hayat\u0131n k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir provas\u0131d\u0131r. Bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun kaybettikten sonraki y\u00fcz ifadesini, pes etmekle m\u00fccadele etmek aras\u0131nda gidip gelen o birka\u00e7 saniyelik karars\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, yeniden raketini s\u0131k\u0131ca tutup oyuna d\u00f6nme \u00e7abas\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131llard\u0131r yak\u0131ndan izliyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ve her ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn ayn\u0131 soruyu kendime daha s\u0131k soruyorum:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cBiz \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten ba\u015far\u0131ya m\u0131 haz\u0131rl\u0131yoruz, yoksa hayat\u0131n zorluklar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 dayan\u0131kl\u0131 bireyler olmaya m\u0131?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bug\u00fcn \u00e7ocuklar \u00e7ok h\u0131zl\u0131 bir d\u00fcnyan\u0131n i\u00e7inde b\u00fcy\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Her \u015fey birka\u00e7 saniyede t\u00fcketiliyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ba\u015far\u0131 anl\u0131k g\u00f6steriliyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sab\u0131r ise neredeyse unutulmu\u015f bir de\u011fer h\u00e2line geliyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sosyal medya \u00e7ocuklara s\u00fcrekli ayn\u0131 mesaj\u0131 veriyor:<br><strong>\u201cHemen ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 ol.\u201d<\/strong><br><strong>\u201cHemen kazan.\u201d<\/strong><br><strong>\u201cHemen fark edil.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Fakat ne hayat b\u00f6yle i\u015fliyor ne de spor&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir antren\u00f6r olarak kortta en \u00e7ok \u015funu g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum; \u00e7ocuklar kaybetmekten \u00e7ok, zorlanmaktan korkuyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc art\u0131k bir\u00e7ok \u00e7ocuk m\u00fccadele etmeyi de\u011fil, sonucu ya\u015famay\u0131 istiyor. Oysa ger\u00e7ek geli\u015fim; tekrar\u0131n, sabr\u0131n ve zaman\u0131n i\u00e7inde olu\u015fur. Bug\u00fcn bir\u00e7ok veli do\u011fal olarak \u00e7ocu\u011funun ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmas\u0131n\u0131 istiyor.\u00a0<strong>Turnuva<\/strong>\u00a0kazans\u0131n,\u00a0<strong>kupa<\/strong>\u00a0als\u0131n,\u00a0<strong>derece<\/strong>\u00a0yaps\u0131n&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Elbette bunlar \u00e7ok de\u011ferli hedefler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ancak bazen en \u00f6nemli noktay\u0131 g\u00f6zden ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131yoruz:<br><em>\u2013 \u00c7ocu\u011fumuz ger\u00e7ekten m\u00fccadele etmeyi \u00f6\u011freniyor mu?<\/em><br><em>\u2013 Bir ma\u00e7 kaybetti\u011finde yeniden aya\u011fa kalkabiliyor mu?<\/em><br><em>\u2013 Hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda oyunun i\u00e7inde kalabiliyor mu?<\/em><br><em>\u2013 Zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131nda devam etmeyi ba\u015farabiliyor mu?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc hayat\u0131n i\u00e7inde kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kacak en b\u00fcy\u00fck s\u0131navlar tam olarak bunlar olacak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tenis bu anlamda \u00e7ok \u00f6zel bir spor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc tenis sadece rakibe kar\u015f\u0131 oynanan bir oyun de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sab\u0131rs\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa kar\u015f\u0131d\u0131r.<br>Pes etme iste\u011fine kar\u015f\u0131d\u0131r.<br>\u00d6fkeye kar\u015f\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bazen insan\u0131n kendi zihnine kar\u015f\u0131 oynad\u0131\u011f\u0131 en b\u00fcy\u00fck m\u00fccadeledir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kortta \u00e7ocuklar yaln\u0131zca&nbsp;<strong>forehand<\/strong>&nbsp;ya da&nbsp;<strong>servis<\/strong>&nbsp;\u00f6\u011frenmez.<br>Beklemeyi \u00f6\u011frenir,<br>Kontrol etmeyi \u00f6\u011frenir,<br>Kaybettikten sonra yeniden ba\u015flamay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki de sporun \u00e7ocuklara verdi\u011fi en b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fc\u00e7 tam olarak budur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bug\u00fcn \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n \u00e7ok ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmas\u0131n\u0131 istiyoruz. Ama bazen onlara dayan\u0131kl\u0131 olmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretmeyi unutuyoruz. Oysa hayat; her zaman kazananlar\u0131n de\u011fil, d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde yeniden aya\u011fa kalkabilenlerin yolculu\u011fudur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kortta \u00f6\u011frenilen en b\u00fcy\u00fck derslerden biri \u015fudur:<br><strong>\u201cHer say\u0131dan sonra yeniden haz\u0131r duru\u015fa ge\u00e7mek gerekir.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n hayatta en \u00e7ok ihtiya\u00e7 duyaca\u011f\u0131 \u015fey tam olarak budur. Hi\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015fmemek de\u011fil&#8230; D\u00fc\u015ft\u00fckten sonra yeniden aya\u011fa kalkabilmek.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cBug\u00fcn \u00e7ocuklar kaybetmeyi de\u011fil, beklemeyi bile \u00f6\u011frenemeden b\u00fcy\u00fcyor.\u201d Bug\u00fcn sizlerin kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na, y\u0131llard\u0131r i\u00e7inde oldu\u011fum tenis kortlar\u0131ndan&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","template":"","categories":[28],"tags":[38,39,37],"manset":[],"class_list":["post-1489","columist","type-columist","status-publish","hentry","category-yazarlar","tag-basari-mi","tag-dayaniklilik-mi","tag-dogan-karaburun"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gazetedokuz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/columist\/1489","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gazetedokuz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/columist"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gazetedokuz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/columist"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gazetedokuz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gazetedokuz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1489"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gazetedokuz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1489"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gazetedokuz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1489"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gazetedokuz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1489"},{"taxonomy":"manset","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gazetedokuz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmanset&post=1489"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}